My Experience with Non-Attachment and Solitude
While my business is about erotic entertainment, you might find it interesting that my diary entries extend far beyond that world.
As a clairsentient, I experience emotions deeply. My aim is to connect with others through my writing, expressing feelings that may resonate with you. By sharing my reflections, I hope to inspire and remind you that you are not alone in your journey of life. There’s so much more to me than just a cheeky smile and a flirtatious personality.
One of the most significant lessons I’ve embraced this year is non-attachment. At its core, non-attachment is about recognizing that our happiness and self-worth do not depend on external circumstances, relationships, or material possessions. It’s not about detaching oneself emotionally but rather about creating a healthy distance from the outcomes of those attachments.
I often found myself overwhelmed by change and too attached to my material possessions, clinging to them due to the effort I invested in acquiring them. I realized that I was frequently preoccupied with the thoughts and concerns of others, leaving little space for my own feelings. While this habit isn’t the fault of those around me, it distracted me from facing my own emotions and often led me to carry the weight of others’ sadness.
Almost everyone I know has faced something difficult or burdensome this year, navigating incredibly tough experiences such as death, grief, terminal illness, and abandonment. 2024 has felt overwhelmingly heavy in many aspects of life. I’m grateful that my persona as Jayme allows me to temporarily step away from my reality. Not only do I provide an escape for others, but they also offer me a reprieve from my own challenges.
This year, I felt the need to withdraw from friends and family, reducing my time spent listening to their concerns. I knew they were willing to lend an ear to mine too, but I needed to focus on stillness, as many conversations often drifted toward complaints—either mine or theirs—and I found that life had lost its joy outside of my persona as Jayme.
In a world that equates love and attachment with emotional depth, non-attachment is often misunderstood. Many believe it means being cold or distant, but it is, in fact, a powerful and healthy mindset. Non-attachment teaches us that our happiness does not depend on external circumstances or material possessions. It allows us to engage with others wholeheartedly while acknowledging that nothing is permanent.
Tips for Practicing Non-Attachment
1. **Mindfulness:** Engage in mindfulness practices to become aware of your thoughts and feelings without judgment
2. **Identify Attachments:** Reflect on what you are attached to, whether people, possessions, or outcomes.
3. **Embrace Impermanence:** Remind yourself that everything in life is transient
4. **Set Intentions:** Focus on your intentions rather than specific outcomes.
5. **Develop Healthy Boundaries:** Establish emotional boundaries in relationships to maintain your sense of self.
I've been reflecting on the phrase "ignorance is bliss." In our information-saturated world, this often rings true. Not knowing certain truths brings me peace and allows me to focus on simpler pleasures. Consequently, I’ve become quite antisocial outside of my persona as Jayme, seeking solitude to recharge. While I sometimes feel I’m not as present for my friends and family, it’s not that I don’t care; I simply need quiet time.
My Morning Routine Since July
Every morning at 5 AM, I start my day with a refreshing shower, always ending with 3 minutes of cold water, followed by meditation or mindful intention setting and a delicious iced matcha. I jump and wiggle to a chosen song on my playlist, which uplifts my spirits. I then dedicate two hours to walking to and from my destination for either my infrared sauna, ice bath, red bed therapy, or cryotherapy, which helps elevate my mood—it's my new addiction! I love my dopamine rush. Then I go about my day, which includes either putting on my lipstick and my Jayme shoes to entertain or reading about my favorite topics on holistic health, nutrition, human biology, personal development, business administration, or just enjoying my time being wonderfully absorbed in my own bubble. I make sure to touch grass at some point throughout my day.
Since July, I’ve kept my personal phone mostly off, embracing a form of antisocial hibernation that has proven beneficial. I’ve established firm boundaries, now my personal phone is on "Do Not Disturb," allowing me to create the space I need. I dedicate one day each week to reconnect with family and friends, while the rest of the time is reserved for enjoying my persona as Jayme or nurturing my own solitude.
Ignorance can be bliss. Embracing this dance between joy and retreat is true happiness
With love and reflection,
JAYME x